Can TPM be used with people who report SRA memory?
Theophostic Prayer is focused on lie-based thinking that is made evident by the emotional painpeople carry. People with SRA memory are in emotional pain for the same reasonspeople who report other type memory. People with SRA memory are carrying lies, not unlike other people, that result in the emotional pain from which they suffer. Of all the people with whom I have offered ministry with SRA memory, each one moved forward in their mind renewal journey by choosing to expose what they believed and offering such belief to the Lord for His truth. I will tell you that the difficulty in doing this for these people was enormous but the process was the same as I use with all other people. There is no question that these type memories are very complex and often present some level of dissociation, but the principles applied are the same for all people. We are in emotional bondage due to our personal belief and choice. We find freedom when we choose to expose what we believe and find His truth. With this said, there are other important considerations to discuss when doing ministry with people described here.
We live in an evil world.
We live in an evil and violent world where people are hurt in unimaginable ways. Child abuse cases are reported in unprecedented numbers, domestic violence is common place, the random killings in our schools and other public placesare no longer "shocking."Almost every day the media reports some unthinkable deed of one person acting out on another in some evil fashion. It is no longer a surprise to hear about someone who has been abducted and held prisoner, forced to be a sex slave for years at a time, tortured, starved, or horribly mistreated. Just recently I read of a couple who had several foster children they kept in cages. If you choose to do this ministry, youmay eventually sit face-to-face with someone who has suffered beyond your comprehension. The news media only covers the reported cases. It appears that some people have suffered silently and kept their traumas hidden.
In many countries, there is violence occurring on a daily basis with war, terrorism and genocide. God, however, is raising people up in all parts of the world to minister His love and truth. There are people doing Theophostic Prayer in over 140 countries today.
I have chosen to look at one area where people are reporting severe trauma, identified as Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA). The reason for discussing this area of concern and not others is that the others are documented with "flesh and blood" evidence. This area is still cloaked in mystery and denial. There are people who appear highly invested in discrediting SRA as valid for whatever the reason. . However, I spent eight long years and thousands of hours ministering to many people reporting this to be true for them. Do I know if it is real? I do not have court proof evidence. However, I have a pile of circumstantial evidence that will not allow me to dismiss it as easily as others. Nevertheless, I am no longer invested in proving its reality, but I do believe, as a Christian and a child of God, I have a responsibility to offer ministry to these people whether others acknowledge their pain or not.
If you are not presently ministering to people who are reporting what is called SRA memory, you may want to skip this section for now. To read this section without an experience base may be confusing; you can always come back to it as needed.
Over the past 15 years, an increasing number of deeply emotionally troubled people have been coming to churches and counseling centers for help. As I travel across the country doing seminars, I sometimes ask how many have seen an influx of victims of sadistic abuses such as Satanic Ritual Abuse. The response is overwhelmingly affirmative. More and more pastors, laypersons, and professionals are called on to work with these deeply troubled people.
It is interesting to note that people reporting SRA memory are seeking help in a sundry of avenues of helping agencies and not just the Christian community. It appears to becoming more and more common across the board. I have read and heard about this same problem being in many other countries besides the United States.
I have not gone looking for the people who came to me with these issues. I had never even heard of this until it showed up in one of my earlier ministry sessions. I did not make any suggestions as to what was in people's pasts. No one ever suggested that what they were reporting had been suggested to them by any outside source. None ever said they had watched a movie or read a book that caused them to have these thoughts. Everything in every session came solely from the person's own thinking. What is amazing is each of these individuals has a story with uncanny similarities to each other, even though they did not know each other or have any previous relationships with each other.
I cannot explain what I have seen and heard, but I do know I have tried to be faithful in helping these people to the best of my ability. I have seen good progress with some and not so much with others. This area is very complex and I do not promote myself as an expert, nor do I know anyone who is an expert.
Personally, I do not like the name given to this issue. SRA conjures up imagery not necessarily consistent with what I believe is going on. The media has created many visual ideas, such as people dressed in black robes, gathered around a bonfire, doing all kinds of evil acts. This may be part of it, but it is not a sufficient description. Reports I have listened to appear to show a systematic attempt made by evil perpetrators to traumatize their victims into a state of dissociation for the purpose of control. My intent in this section is not to try to convince you of the reality of the problem, but only to acknowledge there are people who report this has happened to them. They bring with them what appears to be genuine symptoms of having been deeply traumatized. Many come with eating disorders, all manner of personality disorders, panic disorders, obsessive-compulsive behaviors, etc. Regardless of whether what they report is true, their symptoms seem valid. With this being the case, these are real people with real pain who need a real encounter with Jesus.
Some people suggest that those who report having an SRA memory are just looking for attention, or are reporting false memory implanted by unwary counselors. This may indeed be true for some of the cases, but to assume it is true for all is ludicrous. Even if we are not able to prove all of what they are reporting is true, the fact is, these people are deeply troubled and in need of ministry. If they are merely attention seekers, for them to go to such a degree to report they have been raped, traumatized and tortured indicates a deep level of emotional trouble in and of itself.
I honestly do not know if everything being reported by people who claim they have been sadistically and systematically traumatized by evil perpetrators is valid. I have ministered to people who believe this is true for them and I have witnessed symptoms consistent with trauma in their lives. I have been presented with much circumstantial evidence, to the degree I cannot deny evil things have happened. I rejoice as those who report SRA memory receive ministry, some are finding truth,livinginmoreconsistentvictoryand moving deeper into their relationship with Christ.
Over the last few years, there have been some changes in my attitude and approach to this subject. I believe at least the essence of what is being reported by some of the people with SRA memory is valid, though many details may be misconstrued and distorted. However, since much is unsubstantiated claims, I am focusing more on helping the person reporting SRA memories and less on trying to expose the perpetrator or prove a point. I do believe that it is just a matter of time before God exposes this evil at its roots. This is my prayer.
Wantingimmediatejusticehas been hard for me to let go, due to my righteous indignation and desire for such. Nevertheless, until the Lord chooses to expose and judge (which He will do at His appointed time), I must do what I am called to do – to minister and to equip the Body of Christ to minister.
This is the primary reason I removed the Level II Advanced Training materials from the market. I realized I had presented material that I did not actually know to be tangible fact. This is not to say I do not believe something terribly wrong has happened to these people, for I believe it has. I just do not have "court proof" evidence of all they have reported as being accurate. However, this is also true for every person I have ever worked with who did not have SRA memory. I only really know what I really know. I am rewriting this material and will release it again in the future. I believe it is very possible to do ministry with these people without knowing what is valid and what is not. Where we can get into trouble is by making assumptions based upon a person's reported memory, when we do not know for certain what is valid and what is not.
Memory and Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA)
Focusing on the lie-based thinking in a memory is never more important than when ministering to those who report they are survivors of SRA. The memory content of these people may inevitably be filled with a mixture of misinformation and intentional programming, as well as genuine traumatic experiences. Some people may even have embraced ideas under the influence of therapists.
Even if some of the "details" are false, it is absurd to assume they have not had emotionally painful experiences. The level of traumatic abreaction that surfaces in some of these ministry sessions cannot be just an attempt at getting attention. Prayerfully sort it all out as best you can. To deny people ministry simply because their reports cannot be validated is unthinkable. These wounded individuals certainly need mind renewal and restoration.
Although total fabrications are possible, based on my experience they are highly unlikely. People with whom I have ministered have surfaced enormous amounts of traumatic symptoms, including body manifestations and anguish that accompanied the emerging details of their memories. No actor could have produced such a convincing performance. Seeking to discredit their stories is unreasonable and can force them to live in denial.
Some people I have done ministry with over the years have been personal friends for over 30 years. I know they are not intentionally making anything up, I have not planted any thoughts into their minds, and they are not in need of attention at this level of display. They do not want these things to be true, but they cannot categorically deny what is surfacing, as hard as they sometimes try.
It is a legitimate concern that false accusations could be made as a result of these SRA types of memories. Facilitators must operate with caution when these memories surface. They must never draw any conclusions based solely on what the person receiving ministry reports, and should obtain corroboration when possible. The person's memory content has to be viewed with uncertainty while the dysfunction, disorders, and crippling behavior are addressed.
Theophostic Prayer Ministry seeks to expose the lie-based belief contained in the memory, not to determine whether the memory is totally accurate. It is not about making accusations, exacting revenge, pressing charges, or passing judgment. It is about finding the peace of Christ, expressing genuine forgiveness and compassion towards those who have hurt us, and walking in truth and restoration.
I believe people should be slow to take legal action, except where others (especially children and the elderly) are at risk, where a crime has been committed, and then only when there is "court-proof" evidence.
About Satanic Ritual Abuse
SRA is defined and understood in different ways by different groups. Explanations range from it being an unfounded hoax to being an underworld infrastructure of occult conspirators plotting to take over the world. After countless hours of ministry and years of positive and negative experiences, I have come to realize:
·There are people coming for help who report horrific memories. They believe they have endured torture and trauma from evil people and some believe they are still enduring.
·Although we cannot fully validate these reports, these people are manifesting what appears to be genuine emotional pain and symptoms of having been traumatized.
·These hurting people obviously need ministry, love and encouragement. We cannot wait until the debate over the validity of SRA is settled before we do anything for them.
·Good counseling or therapy is not telling people that what they believe has no merit. Every person must be loved, supported and allowed to come into the truth, whatever that truth may be. As Christians, we know Jesus is the Truth.
· As we offer ministry to these people, some of them are moving out of their emotional distress into the light of Christ, and are living transformed lives.
Janet was an emotionally troubled, middle-aged woman who came to me reporting flashbacks of unbelievably horrendous memories she could not explain, followed by great terror and panic attacks and severe physical abreactions. At that time, I had never had the experience of ministering to a person reporting SRA memories. I did not know what to do, but was honest with her about my ignorance as we both waded out into what soon became very deep and dark water.
Since that experience, I have ministered to many people such as Janet and have had differing levels of success and outcomes. The potential for mishap is great in this area of ministry, and wisdom is needed if you are to succeed. I pray you will take what I am about to say seriously, learn from my mistakes, and choose to operate in waters that have already been charted at least to some degree.
In the midst of theories, conjecture, skepticism, and opinions are hurting people standing on the doorsteps of the Christian church. They are seeking help and waiting for a response from the followers of the One who said, "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28, italics mine).
This is why we should offer ministry. We can enter into the debate over the legitimacy of the reports, but it still leaves us with real people, emotionally damaged. If we wait until the controversy is settled, they will continue to live in pain and turmoil, devoid of the peace God intends for them. Sadly, those who are denying the reports of alleged SRA survivors do not tend to be offering help or providing viable solutions, just debate and argument.
Important things to keep in mind regarding SRA
This is a general guide based upon my own personal experience. It is not my intent to categorize people into broad generalities. This may not apply to the people to whom you minister, but read this section carefully and keep it for later reference.
1. Be certain it is God's purpose for you to work with deeply wounded people
Not everyone is called to do ministry such as TPM, especially with people who report deep trauma. Over the years, I have consistently noticed a significant number of people at our trainings who are deeply wounded themselves, even though they seem to have little awareness of it. I encourage you to stop and seriously look inside to see what is driving your desire to minister to others in emotional pain. You may be operating out of pain rather than peace.
If you have any unresolved traumatic experiences (especially SRA memory) do not take this training until you have arrived at perfect peace in your own painful memories. It is critically important to continue receiving ministry on a regular basis. If you are not aware of your ongoing need for mind renewal, you may be deceiving yourself. You may say it is unfair that you are not allowed to do this ministry just because you have unresolved trauma in your past. The truth is, it will only be a matter of time before your own lie-based pain will show up right in the middle of someone else's session. You cannot keep your own lie-based pain hidden – it WILL be triggered.
Someone might say it is unfair a that person who wears glasses cannot be a jet fighter pilot. The truth is, there are reasons for putting these limitations in place.
Doing ministry with SRA people may very quickly expose your own lie-based pain in ways you have not experienced before. The danger is some people never recognize their own need for mind renewal and thus operate out of pain, frustration, fear, stress, and anxiety, all the while blaming it on others and the situation.
Before you enter into this area of ministry, seek the opinion of your pastor or other spiritual leader. Look for someone who can offer you ministry on a regular basis. Unfortunate and unnecessary things tend to occur with emotionally wounded facilitators who are not seeking ministry and are not accountable to others.
2. Equip yourself well
Do not limit your training to TPM alone but seek out other avenues of training that can make you more balanced and equipped. At the same time, be aware about questionable training resources. Avoid extreme views and exercise wisdom about what you hear. Work under the umbrella of a church or an established ministry structure so there is some accountability.
I am skeptical about the "global conspiracy" theory and that it is all about spiritual warfare, especially the mystical perspective. People are not held captive by the spirit world, rather by their own belief and thinking. There may be demons involved, but every demon is connected to the person's own belief and choice.
The bottom line when working with highly-dissociated and traumatized people is that all they know and believe has its roots in a real-life situation stored in memory. Within these memories are beliefs that keep all dissociation, programming and behavior in place. As people are able to embrace what is contained in their memory, identify the belief they are holding, and hold the pain connected to it up to the Lord, they will find release. This is a long-term process only the Lord can accomplish.
3. Network with others trained and skilled in dealing with mental health issues
There are very few people I am aware of who are successfully treating this particular issue. However, there are good mental health providers that can deal with some of the symptoms that go with this issue. They can provide the traditional care for managing the eating disorders, panic and phobias, compulsions, etc. They may not be able to help with the prayer side of things, but they can provide very good support in other areas.
Network with the mental and medical health community as much as possible. It is wise to require the one reporting SRA memory to refer to a local psychologist or counselor. Let the mental health professional be first in line offering help to the person. Take the role of support prayer person. At some point, you and your church may need this as a layer of protection.
Connect with your local law enforcement agency and find out what they might want you to do about reporting crimes, identities of potential perpetrators, etc. Know the laws of your area concerning ongoing abuse that may need to be reported. Use Informed Consent for Lay/Church Ministry forms and Hold Harmless Agreements (see Appendix). The book, Keeping Your Ministry Out of Court, is an excellent resource and is available at http://www.theo.zeta-server.com/.
4. Only allow spiritually and emotionally strong people to do this ministry
This area of ministry should not be done by the new Christian or the spiritually or emotionally immature. I encourage all church leaders to take care in selecting who will do ministry; sometimes the most eager volunteers are the ones the least ready to do it. Set up the ministry so you can release people from ministry if they do not work out. Interview your potential prayer ministers and make your selections with care.
Develop clear guidelines that must be followed and high standards that must be met. If people cannot operate within them, have enough mind renewal of your own to deal with them in a loving but firm manner. It is better you do not have a ministry to wounded people than to have ill-equipped people doing ministry.
Allow only those who are knowledgeable about this area to do this ministry. Train, retrain and then supervise them. Hold every member accountable to strictly follow the Theophostic Prayer Ministry Session Guidelines.
5. Build a good support structure first
When developing your infrastructure, make sure each member of the team is doing only what they need to be doing. Avoid expecting one member to be the person's friend and relational support as well as doing ministry. The facilitator needs to be emotionally separate so he can provide effective ministry and not be torn and distracted should the person make poor choices (such as deceiving the facilitator, going back to the occult, betraying trust, etc.).
The person providing day-to-day encouragement, prayer times, and Bible studies is likely to bond emotionally with the ministry recipient. While this is good and necessary in the Body of Christ, it could cause difficulty if mixed with doing in-depth ministry. In the world of psychology this is called "avoiding having a dual relationship."
In the past, I have taught differently, but I have learned the hard way that spreading the ministry around is a better option. When I first began ministering with SRA people, I felt I had no other option but to do it all, because I could not find others willing to help. Today things are better. I would not advise allowing a person with this level of trauma to be a part of a prayer ministry group, since few prayer group leaders will know what to do and the group could become overwhelmed very quickly. It is best to provide separate ministry for those who report this level of trauma.
6. Operate in the arena of tangible truth
Live in the world of tangible truth, not in what the person reports. Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not place your trust in the ministry recipient. Without discrediting her beliefs, never assume the accuracy of information surfacing in her memory. Regard what she says as possible, but very likely a tainted reality, otherwise you may be betrayed.
As you are given information by the one reporting the SRA memory, ask yourself, "Do I know without a doubt (based on hard physical evidence) what has been told to me is a fact?" Avoid accepting the reports as fact without having "court-proof" evidence, or you may find yourself governed by that which is not entirely true. Whatever you accept as fact will impact your emotional state, since we will feel what we believe. You do not want your feelings dictated by what may be true but has not been validated. This principle holds true for all ministry sessions, but is especially needed in this area of work.
If the person identifies others as victims, do not seek to expose, rescue, or inform them. People move toward freedom by choice, and if you run ahead, you may create major problems. It is not your job to convince anyone of anything, or in doing so, you may very well be caught up in falsehood yourself. However, do let the person know you will not hide anything that legally must be reported.
7. Do not share information outside the support circle
This principle is vital. Every person has at least one trusted friend who would never tell anyone else … but that friend has one too … and so on. Never discuss what has been revealed in a session with anyone who is not a part of the ministry team working specifically with the person, or who is not a part of the support circle, and certainly not without the permission of the ministry recipient.
If you have unwisely shared confidential information, ask forgiveness of the person who heard the information and request his commitment to contain the information. If you fail to keep the information that surfaces well contained, you and your ministry may eventually be discredited.No one should be on your ministry team if confidentiality cannot be maintained.
The exception to this would be when the recipient poses a real danger to himself or others. When there is actual evidence of ongoing abuse, this should be reported according to what is required of you by law. However, you cannot "stand guard" and stop his possible choice to return to the perpetrators.
8. Never make accusations of anyone without court-proof evidence
You may have to provide evidence to back up any accusation you make. If your evidence is solely the report of the ministry recipient, you may find yourself and that person being discredited.
Adopt a wait-and-see attitude. The Lord can expose what He chooses as He chooses. Remember, horrific as it is, the person's suffering is temporary, and evil will be punished for all eternity. It is possible that the evil people would like you to come forward with seemingly bizarre and far-fetched accusations in order to discredit you. However, if you have genuine evidence of crimes committed, do what is legally required of you.
9. Avoid being caught up in conspiracy theories
There is much reported in this area with no tangible evidence to support it. Do not get carried away by reported "global conspiracies" or a supposedly high-ranking position someone might believe he holds in the occult. Just because he says he is a member of the Illuminati or a One World Order Secret Society, or the high priest over a region of the world, does not mean it is so.
When this sort of information surfaces, it is usually a defense protecting him from something he does not want to embrace. Grandiose beliefs may be part of the deception, so encourage him to approach the places of pain and make the discoveries needed for freedom. Truth and confession are the way out, while secrecy and denial maintain the bondage. People move forward when they come clean before God about what they have kept hidden.
10. Do not try to stand between the person and their reported abusers
Attempts to protect ministry recipients from ongoing abuse may only cause you to be discredited at some point. If they continue to return to the people they have reported as being perpetrators, you cannot stop this. However, you may have to decide to what extent you are willing to continue ministry.
In a normal counseling practice, counseling is not discontinued simply because a person continues to make poor choices. Know that as long as the behavior continues, this is an indication that they are hiding something they are unwilling to expose. When enough mind renewal has occurred, they can make appropriate choices.
People can be controlled by intimidation and blackmail, but when they stand in truth and perfect peace, the offenders will retreat. Some people get caught up in the panic of trying to keep the ministry recipients safe from evil people, but this is futile. If what they report is true it is very sad indeed, but there is really nothing you can do to protect them from their own choices.
11. Never assume the people are everything they present themselves to be
Some people reporting SRA memories that I came to trust, later turned out to be completely untrustworthy. I have been lied to and disappointed by some. The reality of working with some people who report such trauma is they may be highly invested in protecting themselves from exposure. They may even be willing to betray you to keep things secret.
Nevertheless, we can still choose to love them and minister to them. I do not believe these people are themselves evil (even though they may report they have been involved in evil). It is likely that their minds have been greatly damaged. I am not seeking to make an all-inclusive statement here about all people reporting SRA memory, since I only have my own experience to go on. Guard yourself carefully because there may be more happening than you know.
According to the Gospel of John, after Jesus did ministry and healed many people, he still held a cautious distance. "When He was in Jerusalem at the Passover, during the feast, many believed in His name, observing His signs which He was doing. But Jesus, on His part, was not entrusting Himself to them, for He knew all men, and because He did not need anyone to testify concerning man, for He Himself knew what was in man" (John 2:23-25).
Jesus was selective about who He trusted. As I serve Him in this ministry, I have learned to do the same. I strongly advise you to be very careful not to extend your hand too far as you minister to people who are reporting the atrocities of SRA. Here again, I do not want to cause you to view all people who report SRA memory through the grid of my experience. However, the deepest heartache and disappointment for me in ministry has been by far in this arena. I gave many years of diligent ministry to several people who completely betrayed me. These people lived in what appeared to be a great double bind. I believe they genuinely wanted freedom and had many glorious sessions with the Lord; however, they were also unwilling to come clean about what they had hidden, and when it came down to it, they chose to betray those who had loved them over moving forward. Be careful!
Key points to remember
·Don't make yourself vulnerable to what the people may say or do about your ministry. Keep everything "on the table" and above board.
·Be very cautious in allowing them to be too involved in your personal life outside of the ministry session. It is not wise to take them into your home or offer them a place in your inner circle. However, others who are not actually doing the ministry may choose to provide this level of ministry.
·Keep good records of what happens in each session.This area of ministry has its own unique risks and pitfalls, so note keeping must be particularly thorough. Have the prayer partner who is present in the session sign all documents as a witness to what occurred. This third person should not be related to the ministry recipient, but should be connected to the ministry team. Be sure the ministry recipient signs the Evaluation of Ministry Received Form after each session. Keep a private file, inaccessible to outsiders.
·Don't be the only one who knows what is going on. Without violating confidentiality, report to other facilitators in a "circle of solution." The contents of your sessions should be shared with the mental health professional who is also working with these people.
·Have them sign the Evaluation of Ministry Received Form following every session. Have them sign a Hold Harmless Agreement before the first session begins. Do not ignore cautions by assuming you will just be okay or God will protect you. (See Appendix for forms.)
·Do not put yourself in a position where it might come down to "your word against theirs." Always have a truthful alibi and third-party witness to everything you do, in relation to the person receiving ministry. Never minister to these people alone.
12. Avoid becoming their lifeline
You cannot rescue these people from anything. They must rely on the Lord and continually seek Him, just as you do. They are captives their own beliefs and choices. If you are convinced you are their hope, way out, or protection, you have been deceived and are in a perpetual double bind. They may either knowingly or unknowingly use this to keep from being responsible and looking at what they do not want to see.
Instead of being rescued, they need to come clean before God and bring out into the open what they are choosing to hide. Their dissociation, fears, and bondage are held in place by their unwillingness to reveal what has been hidden. In the same way each of us must expose the pain and false beliefs in our lives to find freedom, so must people reporting SRA memory.
13. If they should surface self-incriminating information, inform them of the legal requirements you are required to follow by law
Unless you are an ordained minister and have verified "clergy-penitent" privileges, help people confess their sin without giving you specific information that would require you to file a report. You do not need to know the details of their memories or sins committed. Help them to look at what they need to know and see without giving you incriminating information.
Should they start to reveal this sort of information during a session, simply ask them to stop. Have them use phrases such as "This person said this, did this …," "This man …," "This woman …," "He did …," "She did …" Provide a disclaimer on your ministry intake forms and remind them of this when necessary. A disclaimer might be: "Should you reveal information that leads me to believe children or the elderly have been hurt or other crimes have been committed, I am required by law to report this to the proper authorities."
Different states have different laws and requirements; some do not require a licensed and/or ordained minister to report, while others do. Know your local requirements. Remind the people at each session about your obligation to report self-incriminating statements.
However, should someone threaten suicide, show evidence of physical abuse or self-mutilation, or show signs of current trauma inflicted upon her, report it to your leader or to the proper authorities. Inform your ministry recipients that you will report such things should they occur. Do not take on the role of covering or hiding information. Secrecy has led to where they are now, and what is hidden must be brought into the light.
14. Keep their ministry demands within reasonable limits
As you are ministering to deeply wounded people, firmly prevent them from demanding exorbitant amounts of your time. This may be hard to do, but it is necessary to keep the ministry in balance. Everyone needs ministry and mind renewal, and there must be time for others.
Never place ministry recipients or the ministry before your marriage or family relationships. Know that God may use the situation to expose, test, and help your marriage grow, but Satan seeks to destroy it. If you have given your ministry priority over your marriage, you are putting yourself in a very dangerous position. Any time you are drawn into a relationship with the ministry recipient that is inappropriate or creates discord, you are being deceived.
15. Watch out for those who may try to plant seeds of dissension in your church or ministry and be aware that some victims may actually falsely accuse you.
Some, though certainly not all, people who report SRA memory can at times be divisive. If you discover a trail of people who are upset or in conflict around the person receiving ministry, do not hesitate to expose and air what is happening. Confront where necessary and hold people accountable. Also know that it is not uncommon for a person with SRA memory to at some point surface "memory" that indicts you as the perpetrator. This can be upsetting and discouraging but is not uncommon. Of course their memory is inaccurate, but it does affirm that something very devious has occurred in their lives. People who work with SRA victims have reported that these types of memories are eventually exposed as "staged" traumas where the victim was forced to embrace a falsehood inorder to hid the true identities of those who hurt them. Until the person is willing to go to the place where they chose to cover over the identities of those who actually hurt them they may believe (at the lie-based level) that you are their perpetrator. This sot of behavior goes with working with some victims. It is important that you work as a team and never alone. Trust in the Lord completely, but hold losely your trust in those with whom you offer ministry. Love them with the love of the Lord but know that much deception is at work in this arena.
16. Limit the number of people you minister who have SRA concerns
It is best to schedule each person, without infringing on your personal schedule, to be seen only at a set time and date. Even if you can maintain strong boundaries, I would not advise ministering to more than two. You need to attend to issues other than SRA as a concern that your view of the world and the people around you could become distorted.
Spending untold hours in the SRA world will have a negative effect on your thinking and disposition. Keep it balanced. Not everyone is a victim of SRA, and you do not have to become paranoid always wondering who is a perpetrator and who is not. Trust your friends and associates to bring it to your attention if you are getting out of balance. Be involved in "normal" activities with "normal" people who have never heard of SRA (and then be careful not to tell them otherwise).